Many feel very vulnerable when out in the dating world. They are afraid to open themselves up to express their feelings for fear of rejection, being mistreated or hurt. When you are ready to start looking for a life partner, the first thing
I suggest is that you get to know "You". Make sure your life is in order and your well-being has physical, spiritual, social, and emotional balance. Align your values and goals with what makes you happy so you can experience peace and purpose for growing a healthy relationship.
Secondly, I believe that you have to know where you stand in the relationship. Are you ready for a dedicated commitment? Both people should value the other above themselves and not always looking at their own interests to be gratified, but instead try putting the other person's needs or interests ahead of your own. It gives joy to make someone else happy. We are human beings and have feelings, No matter what circumstances may come about, you must be willing to talk things over and be willing to move on to a better place even if it means to agree to disagree. If you are honest and trustworthy, it will give a feeling of security to the other person in the relationship, People are not to be used for your own benefit. Unconditional love does not mean I love you only under my conditions, and no matter what happens or how unhappy I am, you will do everything I want for you to make me happy or to keep me from leaving you. What is missing here is a dedicated commitment.
Thirdly, I believe that Unconditional Love is sealed with a wedding vow. It might be called old fashioned, but I believe that love comes from God. Prayer and faith have to find a way into your relationship for it to flourish and endure. My favorite expression of a dedicated commitment is the traditional wedding vow which states "I ____ take you ____ for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part".
If both of you truly mean it, your relationship will stand the test of time as you enjoy a loving companionship with someone who accepts you completely for as long as you both shall live,
By Bettye Allen